Want to make a change without medication? Small changes in lifestyle may be the trick to being happier and healthier.
Does Less Stuff Make Us Happier?
We all know being featured on TLC’s “Hoarding: Buried Alive” is probably a bad sign. The show raises a good question, though: In today’s materialistic, rat-race world, do we have too much stuff? And how does all that clutter really affect our happiness?
De-Clutter to De-Stress — Why It Matters
Since the 1970s, the average American home has gotten 50 percent larger. And that extra space isn’t staying empty — Americans are gradually accumulating more and more stuff. But it’s not just about finding new items to decorate our digs. Starting in the early 20th century, some researchers say, advertisers began marketing their products as ways to increase happiness. The result is that people often end up with way more stuff than they want or need and can have difficulty parting with it.
An extreme example of over-consumption is hoarding, a psychiatric condition related to obsessive compulsive disorder, in which people compulsively accumulate items and are unable to get rid of them. Hoarding can have negative effects even for those who don’t suffer from it themselves . In one study, people who lived with hoarders before age 21 reported greater anxiety, distress, strained relationships between family members, and overall difficulty in family life .
Even for the general population, accumulating stuff can actually be addictive. Scientists use the term “hedonic treadmill” to describe how humans eventually adjust to good and bad events . When applied to consumerism, this means that no matter how many iPhones are released, they become less and less exciting over time. This is where the treadmill part comes in — when the everyday reality of owning doesn’t live up to the excitement of purchasing, we perpetuate the cycle by buying more.
So what’s the best way to break the cycle — without living like a hermit?
Throw-out Throwdown — The Answer/Debate
Fortunately, people don’t adapt to experiences the same way they do to stuff. Going on a hike or spending a day at a museum is different every time, so the thrill doesn’t wear off as easily. Experiential purchases are largely hedonic-treadmill-resistant because we can re-experience them by remembering, sharing with others, or looking at photos. Plus, studies show many “doing” activities are also group events, so they reinforce social bonds and relationships.
Ever had a case of buyer’s regret? Most of us have wished to return an ill-considered purchase, but the impulse is not nearly as strong with money spent on activities. A study shows that people dwell on unchosen options and make comparisons more often after a material purchase than with an experiential buy .
On the other hand, never buying anything or getting rid of every item in the house isn’t necessarily a good sign. The opposite of hoarding, a psychological issue in which people can’t stand accumulating objects and purge their homes constantly, is much less common. “Clutter phobia” can run the spectrum from run-of-the-mill neat-freakiness to full-on OCD.
Here are a few guidelines for happiness-friendly spending and storing:
- Consider carefully before buying something new. Is this a need or a want? Try to limit the quantity of stuff you own by getting rid of one old object for every new one.
- Organize thoroughly and often. If (like most of us) you have an overflowing closet but nothing to wear, go through everything at least once a year. If an item has gone 12 months without a single wear, it’s time to let go of that mohair sweater.
- Avoid stockpiling. It may be tempting to get a different set of cookie-cutters for every holiday, but most objects can multi-task. Justifying a purchase with phrases like “I might need this…” or “This would come in handy…” probably means it’s superfluous.
- Clean with your brain, not your heart. Sentimental keepsakes — that high school letter jacket, the mug stolen from a college cafeteria — are emotionally valuable, but usually just collect dust. For important but falling-apart mementos, take photos to preserve the memories.
- Steer clear of aspirational purchases. Buying a new wardrobe in a smaller size might spur a fitness kick, but it will definitely clog up a closet. Want to be a painter? Start with a few supplies before springing for a deluxe set. We often abandon new hobbies and goals but keep the associated stuff because we like to entertain the possibility of revisiting them.
Having too much stuff is a formula for added stress, but is there a way that money can contribute to happiness? Studies show spending those hard-earned paychecks on social or creative experiences — going for a night out on the town, taking an art class, or treating friends to a picnic — can lead to longer-lasting happiness and stronger relationships. So next time you’re tempted by those fancy yoga pants, think of putting the cash towards a yoga class with a friend instead.
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(This has Jil Dennis's name all over it!) ...I'm always freshly impressed when I take a trip by how few clothes I need to happily function. Can't say I'll have much energy left for closet cleaning when I get home though ;-). I've found better luck with taking it on a day by day basis-- what can I get rid of-consolidate-use up today?
Great article Sophia. I couldn't agree more. Stuff just clogs us up. As Ann said in her comment, try and take a backpacking trips or a bike tour and see how little we really need Thanks Victor
My experiment starting October 1 is: to donate or give away 4 things for 1 purchased or received up to February 14, 2013 - a gift for me! I got bogged down this week because someone gave me a bunch of stuff - and I took them - and now must find 50 things to dismiss from my house. Good thing I love challenges. I need to practice what I preach!
I would love to become more of a minimalist. A cluttered home certainly leads to a cluttered mind. I feel like we are very much a 'just incase' society that we always want to be able to please each other and ourselves by always being prepared with access to stuff. I used to live in an apartment in Brooklyn where my whole life fit into one room. Now I live in a decent sized home in suburbia that I can fill no problem. I definitely noticed how much easier it is for me to justify buying more because I have more room now- a cycle I intend to break.