If there’s one thing we’re good at as humans, it’s finding fault with ourselves. We think we’re not working hard enough, and the work we do isn’t up to snuff. But most of the time, being harsh isn’t going to make you try harder. On the contrary, you’re more likely to feel depressed and underperform. As this video from The School of Life explains, we need to take time for self-compassion. It might sound like a pity party, but it’s very different. The video outlines an easy, six-step meditation—that goes way beyond focusing on your breathing—to get on the road to self-care.

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