As if we needed one more reason to question everything, getting in “proposal shape” is apparently the next big thing in fitness. Yep, more and more people are working out specifically to prepare for their proposal—and the inevitable engagement photos.

Of course, it’s understandable you’d want to look your best when there are lots of photos being taken. And we fully support healthy, sustainable lifestyle changes that start with being more active.

That said, we don’t love the idea that anyone feels like they have to look a certain way in order for their proposal to be successful. The pressure to be “wedding ready” is already too much—adding expectations around proposals just extends the craziness in a (probably) unhealthy way. You’re committing to spending your life with someone, which is a really beautiful—and also scary—thing. The last thing you should be worrying about is how toned your arms look.

Whether or not you’re prepping for a proposal, keep this in mind: You are enough, exactly as you are. The person you end up with should care about you more than the way you look. So take a deep breath, eat food that makes you feel good, and find healthy habits that work for you year-round… not just when you’re posting that perfect photo.