Tinder has changed the dating landscape for good. And man, this video about the downsides of the dating app is depressing. Long gone are the days when we read through a full dating profile before sending a rambling message. And meeting someone IRL? That’s so 1990.
Now we swipe to our heart’s content. And many people aren’t looking for love or even a warm body for cuffing season. They’re just swiping for swiping’s sake—after all, Tinder is designed to be addictive, just like Candy Crush or Angry Birds. All of this makes it a little less surprising that 42 percent of Tinder users aren’t single. Perhaps they’re bored or looking for the instant gratification of a quick, virtual match. (We envision couples lying next to each other on the couch, swiping to see who gets the most matches. Loser has to clean the dishes.) Regardless, the stat is yet another reason not to get your hopes up with every new match.
Luckily, there are more fish in the sea, and Tinder is one big ocean (there are more than 100 million users). But that becomes a problem too. Sure, your first date went well, but was there really a spark? It’s easy for the grass to seem greener when you know the perfect person could be just a swipe away. And that can make the dates you do go on seem superficial: Is it worth getting emotionally invested if one or both of you decide you’d rather go back to swiping? It’s enough to make us give up on dating apps. Even a seedy bar sounds more appealing—you may not meet your soul mate, but at least you’ll get a drink.