Most people have the same instinctive reaction when they’re anxious: Take a deep breath and try to calm down. But research shows that’s the wrong move for many of us. Instead, tell yourself “I am excited” over and over, and eventually you’ll probably start to feel that way. (Anxiety and excitement have much more in common than you think!) Watch The Atlantic’s Olga Khazan test out this theory with her most anxiety-inducing experience: karaoke.