It’s not just name-calling and derogatory put-downs that classify as emotional abuse. As this Buzzfeed video shows, it can be more subtle and often go unnoticed. Emotional abuse can be especially difficult to recognize in same-sex relationships. As one question from the video points out, “She’s a woman—so she’s excused from treating other women like sh*t?” It’s long (about 15 minutes), so if you don’t have time to watch the whole thing, focus on this key takeaway: If you feel disrespected, mistreated, or manipulated by your partner in any way, or if someone you trust expresses concern about your relationship—don’t ignore it.