Yesterday, I attended an all-day event—wearing the highest, most expensive heels I have. (I wanted to impress everyone with my look.) At the end of the evening, the cocktail reception had no chairs. None. I absolutely had to stand.
Hell, right? Well, not really. I’d invested in a little something that gave me happy feet (and added at least 2-3 hours to the fun—I stayed till closing time)!
What was it? Something small, but which made all the difference: Insoles for my heels, so I can wear them way longer, without pain. Seriously, if you wear heels, all I can say is buy a pack ASAP.
Normally, I wouldn’t think to take care of myself in this way. But I am SO glad I did—it was an act of self-love that was proof to myself and my body that I deserve to be taken care of.
And don’t we normally short-change ourselves? We put our needs last, justifying to ourselves, “I’ll be OK… I don’t need that extra thing that will make my life easier.”
Increasingly, I’m thinking, Nope. No siree. I matter too. What small, seemingly unimportant additions can you add to your life, starting now?
Here are some suggestions:
1. Buy yourself flowers.
Don’t wait for your birthday, an S.O, or a Valentine’s day cliché to come around. The other day, a friend gifted me some beautiful pink peonies when she came over for dinner, and I smile every time I look at them. I’m gonna get more once these one wilt. Just for me, baby.
2. Take a day off midweek for no reason.
I’m actually writing this poolside. No friends. No emails. Just me and my words. Because I’m worth it, and so are you. What will you do—visit a museum? Hit up a movie or a mall? The options are endless (and during the week, everything is waaaayyyy quieter too). Bliss!
3. Spend a little extra for the quality option.
I know organic blueberries are $2 more. But I just feel better when I eat them. What can you upgrade—even in a small way—that will nourish that hard-working body of yours? If your default option is always the cheapest thing, pause the next time you’re picking up your berries or veggies, and choose one thing to invest more in that’ll satisfy you the most.
4. Hug yourself.
This sounds weird—I get it. But when a friend of mine recently quit a job he hated, he was riding in that corporate elevator for the last time, and he put his arms around his shoulders and said, “Good move, Michael.” It’s a nicer, self-applied version of a pat on the back.
Just do it! You deserve your own love just as much as anyone in your family does.
5. Take five for you.
In the morning, if you have no ritual (that’s totally cool!), you can still take five for you. I love this cheesy but uplifting video. Or this 4-minute tapping exercise designed to deliver you an amazing day. Don’t knock it till you rock it—at least once! I do both every morning, and if I skip a day, I notice. And yep—I’m proudly the happiest person I know.
What can you do to give yourself a little love today? Because you—yes, YOU—matter.
Susie Moore is Greatist’s life coach columnist and a confidence coach in New York City. Sign up for free weekly wellness tips on her website and check back every Tuesday for her latest No Regrets column!