Doggy style, or the backshot position, opens up worlds of stimulation, penetration, and excitement for everyone involved. Here are some great tips to help you get your bow wow wow on.
There’s something super hot about the doggy-style position. One partner hitting it from behind means they can go deeper, often reaching the G-spot or prostate. With a few minor tweaks, you can take your doggy style sex from hot to *sings* this girl is on fire.
Here are 15 inclusive tips to elevate your doggy style sex.
The backshot position can be a little clumsy at first. Don’t worry, it won’t take long before you’re having the time of your life. These simple tips will get you there even faster:
- Start slow and master the basics first
- Make time for foreplay
- Use props for support
- Experiment with different depths
- Experiment with rhythm
- Experiment in different rooms
- Remember to use lube
- Notice your partner’s body language
- Try nipple play
- Use a mirror
- Utilize sex toys
- Stimulate the clitoris
- Use it as a transition into anal
- Enjoy playing with the power dynamic
- Keep communication open at all times
When you’re trying out a new position, it’s tempting to go in with all guns blazing. But holding your excitement in check and perfecting your fundamentals makes for a better time in the long run.
In the standard traditional doggy style position, the receiving partner begins on their hands and knees with their back arched. They’re facing away from the giving partner, who slips it in while kneeling or standing.
Most of the time, the giver is doing the hard, dirty work. But the receiver still has a lot of agency to grind backward or side-to-side. Finding that balance of effort vs. physical feedback is one of the joys of perfecting doggy.
Another common mistake is to think that trying a new sexual position is enough excitement all by itself. That’s not the case, both partners still need to get themselves all worked up for any position to be enjoyable.
Doggy can allow a lot of extra depth. For that reason, it’s particularly important that the receiving partner is ready for it. Many people try the position and think they don’t like it, when in actuality they just need a bit more foreplay.
If you’ve agreed that you’re trying a new position today, take your time getting there. Spend a good 15-20 minutes laying the groundwork.
A lot of factors can make doggy style easier or harder to pull off. One of the most common is a simple height difference between partners. Using pillows or furniture to raise the receiving partner up can help a lot.
If doing doggy on the bed is too hard on the knees, try standing. One partner bent over the bed can make life easier for the giver if they need a little extra height. Alternatively, lie down fully with two pillows to support your face and pelvis.
Long story short, there are a lot of different ways you can do it from the back. Don’t feel constricted to only one method if it’s not working for you both.
Doggy lets the receiver feel a lot more of the giver’s penis or toy. On the other hand, sometimes doggy allows for a little too much penetration. If it’s getting more than the receiver can handle, try asking the giver to hold their knees a bit closer together. That’s a good way to restrict the full force of their thrusting.
The exact amount of penetration is the key to getting maximum enjoyment from the doggy style position.
The giving partner might want to consider mixing a few shallower strokes in with each deep one to set a tantalizing rhythm.
Alternatively, don’t neglect the sexual power of stillness. Holding the doggy position while still inside lets both partners feel even the slightest bit of sensation more intensely.
This pose gives both partners a lot of freedom to position themselves and move. The receiver in particular can feel free to back up onto the penis or toy from time to time. Don’t restrict yourself to one series of movements.
Doggy’s great on the bed, but what about the couch? The kitchen bench? Up against the shower? Partners who discover a shared love of this position often find themselves getting down to it outside of the bedroom.
Real doggy style connoisseurs can get super creative here. Ever done it on top of a washing machine when it’s vibrating like crazy?
The only real question is whether you can comfortably get each partner to the right required height. With a bit of creativity and horny determination, this is generally doable.
PSA: Be careful about surfaces. Rugburn from doing it doggy is nothing to joke about.
A new sex position isn’t an excuse to neglect the basics. Doggy style has been linked in some small studies to a higher risk of penis injury during sex. This is usually when too much thrusting meets not enough lubrication.
Because of all the extra depth this position unlocks, lube is also important from the receiver’s perspective. Even at peak arousal, not everyone naturally produces enough bodily lubricant to enjoy full-speed doggy.
With the backshot pose, there’s no eye contact. Facing away from one another also means you lose some of that closeness and intimacy from more traditional positions. That’s more than made up for in terms of sensation and penetration, but be careful that communication doesn’t suffer.
If you’re the giver, make sure your receiver’s back is arched to take your penis or toy enthusiastically. A flattening or tensing back could be a sign you’re not quite hitting the right spot yet. Thankfully, doggy makes it way less awkward to slow things way down and check your partner is ok.
One partner lying forward on all fours provides ample opportunity to indulge in nipple stimulation. The bottom partner can take the top’s hand, guiding them and showing exactly how they like their nipples worked.
Introduce nipple clamps to add a touch of delicious pressure. This is particularly intoxicating when you do it midway through playtime. Be sure to spend time stimulating and arousing your partner’s nipples before you place them on.
Knowing exactly when to apply and remove the clamps can turn peaks of excitement into wave after wave of nipgasms.
Placing a mirror in front of you while doing it doggy adds a completely new dimension to play with.
Don’t be surprised if you find your exhibitionist streak coming out when you try this. Our sexual satisfaction is tied closely to how we perceive our partners. Seeing yourself with someone you find enticing can do wonders for self-esteem and body image.
If you’re using a strap-on for doggy style sex, your experience will be closely linked with the toybox. Others might benefit from a reminder that all your favorites can still come out to play in this position.
You might also find a love of new doggy-friendly elements. A yoga strap is a thoroughly satisfying way to give one partner control over the exact amount of pelvic pressure being dished out.
Some couples might find they love doggy so much they decide to splash out on specialist equipment. Something like a sex chaise, a specially curved seat, can make the experience truly sublime. Remember to throw a blanket over it when guests visit.
Blending an almighty orgasm of G-spot and clitoral stimulation is rarely a bad idea. Doggy makes it temptingly easy to apply your fingers to the clit, one of Mother Nature’s masterpieces of sensitivity.
Vibrators are, of course, always worth indulging. In positions like missionary, you’re more restricted in terms of how big and powerful a toy you can fit between two bodies. No such issues here with doggy. Larger wand vibrators can even let the top partner feel some of the benefits.
You’ve probably noticed exactly how gosh-darned easy it is to swap from vaginal to anal sex with this position. If you and your partner are into it, doggy can be your entry point to the world of butt stuff.
If it’s your first time, remember to throw on a new condom. Lube up and go slow. If you’re still easing yourselves into the idea, think about a butt plug as a gentler introduction. A smaller, non-vibrating plug is advised to start.
There’s a certain power dynamic that comes with throwing your partner down, flipping them over, and doing what comes naturally.
Consenting couples who want to get into kink can use doggy to explore exchanging control. Let one partner take over for a while and see if it sparks any undiscovered desires.
We spoke about a lack of eye contact earlier. This can actually sometimes help when BDSM is concerned. A small lack of personalization opens up huge scope for playing a role and taking on a thrilling sexual persona. Just remember our final tip…
This one’s universal. Any sexual adventure needs to be built on trust and consent. Doggy style, which can be painful if not performed with respect, makes it extra important to keep communication lines open.
Elements like not being able to see your partner’s face, deeper penetration, and further distance between you add up. To avoid discomfort or distress, remember to be extra vocal during doggy and let your partner know what’s up.
Not all doggies are created equal. If you take the time to really work on this position, you’ll find it offers a huge variety. Throw in some props and toys, you’ve got a recipe for a seriously sexy session.
As always, remember to keep it safe and sane. The lack of eye contact during doggy can make it difficult to gauge your partner’s reaction at first. But the good news is that this position feels so good, they’ll likely let you know when they’re having a good time. Loudly.
