Long-distance relationships are hard, but they don’t always get easier when you and your sig o are finally living in the same zip code. This study found that one third of couples break up within three months of reuniting. It’s a little surprising, then, that people in LDRs typically report higher levels of satisfaction than couples who live together or close by, but the disparity can often be chalked up to idealization. (There’s no fighting over dirty dishes or taking out the trash when you live in different time zones.) These stats also assume your relationship lasts while the two of you are living apart.

As this video from Bustle explains, certain people are actually better suited for long-distance relationships. Psychologists categorize people in relationships as anxious, avoidant, or secure (you can also be a combination of these). People with attachment-related anxiety tend to have a harder time being apart. So if you’re the type of person who worries about abandonment and acceptance (do you really love me? Are you sure you love me?), you might want to avoid dating long distance.

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