Always falling for the bad boy (or girl)? You can blame your parents, but it’s not as Freudian as it sounds. This video from The School of Life explores what makes someone “our type,” and it turns out we tend to look for traits that mimic what we’ve seen in the romantic relationships we’re most familiar with, namely mom and dad.

Unhealthy relationships may be the subconscious rearing its head, but before you text your parents saying they’ve set you up for a lifetime of failed romances, use this opportunity to reflect on what you’re really looking for in that special someone.