Before we could swipe right from the comfort of our sweatpants, women were expected to follow strict rules related to dating etiquette. In this hilarious video from Vanity Fair, Kate Beckinsale reads the ridiculous tips from one such guide, like “a lady should be expected to shine in the art of conversation—but not too brightly” and “no lady should be left unattended.” (Just like luggage in the airport, as Beckinsale points out.) You’ll laugh at the outdated advice but also cringe—maybe Tinder isn’t actually the worst.