Does Crying Make Us Feel Better?
Cry Me a River — Why It Matters
Rumor has it that a good cry is a great way to relieve stress . For years, scientists believed crying alleviated a buildup of tension and negative emotions. Some researchers even proposed tears as a personal waste-disposal mechanism that helped rid the body of stress-induced chemicals.
But back off those canoe paddles— a river of tears isn’t always a cathartic cure-all. Research suggests the psychological effects of crying depend on the personality of the crier and the specific situation . Criers who feel ashamed won’t get much of a mood boost, but those who have social support might— so no pointing and laughing at the guy hogging the Kleenex.
For Crying Out Loud — The Answer/Debate
It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to… get sympathy from friends? There’s some evidence that, while crying itself can be a negative emotional experience, it can prompt others to offer their help and support. One study shows adults are more likely to help people if they’re crying . Another study shows people recognize a sad face more easily when they can see some tears.
Crying might not make troubles disappear, but in some cases, tears can actually boost moods. Studies suggest when people experience a positive event or personal improvement, they feel better after crying. Still, it’s unclear why people cry when they’re happy, though some researchers believe tears of joy are also a way to drain excess energy.
In any case, it’s rarely a good idea to hold back tears (Miss America sure doesn’t)— especially for fear of humiliation. People generally tend to feel better when they cry in the company of another person. So, if there’s a load those eyes can’t bear, pick a pal and let it out.
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