Saying you’re not having enough sex sounds needy. (Aren’t there bigger issues in this world than whether you’re getting hot and heavy on the reg?) To answer the cynical voice in your head: Yes, there are. But as this video shows, doing the deed is essential to healthy relationships. And a lack of sex is a major reason why couples break up.

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